First of all I want to start off by articulating that this post is in no way intended to lambaste men nor is it written with sarcasm. Is it not written with a vituperative tone either. It is only what I have experienced in my transactions with men in general. From doctors to lawyers to judges to police men. From business relationships to work relationships and personal relationships, to everywhere in between. It is spoken in terms of generalities and is in no way meant to classify all men with these characteristics.
Objectively speaking these are the common characteristics that I have witnessed repeatedly in my interactions with men through the years........keep in mind that in my 43 years, I have moved around a lot so I have met men from all walks of life...........from poor to super rich, from uneducated men to highly educated men. And I must mention that just because a man has a degree and is rich, does not mean he will act in a gentlemanly manor. So here goes...........
1) They are Insecure. I can't tell you how many times I have had to reassure, validate and reiterate due to clingy and needy behavior. They have to keep tabs on you, control you and dominate you, they automatically assume you are rejecting them or attacking them. Because their egos are SO fragile and SENSITIVE, they need constant reassurance. And they must make you feel inferior by insulting you BECAUSE their insecurity makes them very uncomfortable.
2) They are Immature. Do you know how many men have openly admitted this to me through the years? And my response is this..........so what are you going to do about it? I have witnessed men behaving in such childish ways. They are manipulative, passive-aggressive, insulting, rude, and insist upon getting their way. They are impatient and demanding and expect the world to revolve around them. And God forbid you should not pay attention to them or reject them........expect to see them on a mission on revenge to "fix your wagon."
3) They are Indolent at times. They get to comfortable and complacent and as long as someone else is doing it, why should they? They lack the initiative to get moving and make things happen. They expect others to do it for them and would have no problem laying back and making someone else do it.
4) They are Arrogant. They have a superior attitude towards woman in general. They have no problem looking down on a woman, not considering women credible or intelligent enough and they consider their opinions to be reasonable and more important than a woman' because her opinions are unreasonable. Their condescending attitude comes across as apathy towards a woman's concerns and worst of all their arrogance clouds any lucid judgment so they think they are right every time and she is wrong. They play the blame game and lack accountability.
5) They are Rapacious. Because everything is business to them and negotiations are King to them, money is pretty much the only thing that motivates them........certainly not compassion or mercy! To them, if you can't pay them, well then you are worthless and they have no use for you. Oh and they assume ALL women are gold-diggers because ALL they think and care about is money!
6) They are Insensitive. They do not care about a woman's feelings but ironically demand that a woman care about theirs. And why is this? Because they are more important than a woman. They act like a woman is over-reacting and tell her to calm down, meanwhile when they have hurt or angry feelings, they EXPECT a woman to understand. They are quick to expect you to "get over it" and will tell you that you are being "too sensitive" but will demand that you come to their aid and understand their plight because they are a man and their life is more important than yours. They are insulting, rude and critical and then in the same breath tell you that you too sensitive, meanwhile they can't handle it when you dish the same thing back to them like a mirror reflecting their own behavior........"What's good for the goose, is good for the gander."
7) They are delusional. They are out of touch with reality. Their imaginations engage them in too much fantasy. They think they are God's gift to women and that ALL women are in love with them and want to worship their complete man-hood. Some even imagine a romantic relationship with a women even though there is not one. They want to hood wink women into believing that ALL women are in love with them, meanwhile not one woman has knocked on their door or called them. Even when a woman tries to tell them her feelings that are truth, he still won't believe it and has to spend his time convincing her that she does not yet know that she is in love with him. Some even think they have fabulous bodies with six-pack abs, meanwhile their beer gut belly extends out to their feet!
8) They are Hypocritical. They have no problem attacking a woman and calling out all her shortcomings and failings, but fail terribly in seeing their own grotesque flaws glaring at them in the mirror. But because they are myopic, they can not see their own flaws and where they need to improve. They love to make a women look bad and "witchy" passing judgment, while they themselves are innocent victims and "saints", never doing anything remotely bad.
9) They don't listen. When I worked in nursing homes, I would have to document objectively each patient at the end of my shift. On the flow sheet, if a patient was HARD OF HEARING, this would be documented as HOH. Most men in general need a super duper, highly sophisticated hearing aid because they really, really lack basic listening skills. You do not need a PHD in engineering, or MD in neurosurgery to know how to listen to people. Listening is not just with your mind and your intelligence, it is also with your heart resulting in understanding. Actively listening does take effort and time so perhaps their indolence is why they do not listen. To be a good business associate, a good lawyer, a good doctor, a good judge, a good deputy, etc., etc., you have to have the most basic life skill that does not require a degree. JUST BE A GOOD LISTENER.
10) They are way too Visual. It seems they think that women were put on this earth to be visually pleasing to them as if women only existed for their visual pleasure. This is RIDICULOUS! They put way too much emphasis on a women looking "perfect" meanwhile some of them look like slobs and smell like slobs because they haven't showered in 5 days. And you know what, they don't care but yet they expect a women to smell and look perfect all the time as if she gets dressed and showers and puts make-up on just for men. So preposterous.
So here you have it. These are my sentiments exactly because I have witnessed it way too many times and frankly it is so disturbing at times that I want to vomit. But again, this is not intended to classify all men this way. I have met some men, although so rare like finding a piece of gold in the Alaskan tundra, who don't exhibit these traits and yes, it is refreshing like a pure mist of water on a really hot day. I know no one is perfect but some men are so obnoxious that you can't be in the same room with them.
Objectively speaking these are the common characteristics that I have witnessed repeatedly in my interactions with men through the years........keep in mind that in my 43 years, I have moved around a lot so I have met men from all walks of life...........from poor to super rich, from uneducated men to highly educated men. And I must mention that just because a man has a degree and is rich, does not mean he will act in a gentlemanly manor. So here goes...........
1) They are Insecure. I can't tell you how many times I have had to reassure, validate and reiterate due to clingy and needy behavior. They have to keep tabs on you, control you and dominate you, they automatically assume you are rejecting them or attacking them. Because their egos are SO fragile and SENSITIVE, they need constant reassurance. And they must make you feel inferior by insulting you BECAUSE their insecurity makes them very uncomfortable.
2) They are Immature. Do you know how many men have openly admitted this to me through the years? And my response is this..........so what are you going to do about it? I have witnessed men behaving in such childish ways. They are manipulative, passive-aggressive, insulting, rude, and insist upon getting their way. They are impatient and demanding and expect the world to revolve around them. And God forbid you should not pay attention to them or reject them........expect to see them on a mission on revenge to "fix your wagon."
3) They are Indolent at times. They get to comfortable and complacent and as long as someone else is doing it, why should they? They lack the initiative to get moving and make things happen. They expect others to do it for them and would have no problem laying back and making someone else do it.
4) They are Arrogant. They have a superior attitude towards woman in general. They have no problem looking down on a woman, not considering women credible or intelligent enough and they consider their opinions to be reasonable and more important than a woman' because her opinions are unreasonable. Their condescending attitude comes across as apathy towards a woman's concerns and worst of all their arrogance clouds any lucid judgment so they think they are right every time and she is wrong. They play the blame game and lack accountability.
5) They are Rapacious. Because everything is business to them and negotiations are King to them, money is pretty much the only thing that motivates them........certainly not compassion or mercy! To them, if you can't pay them, well then you are worthless and they have no use for you. Oh and they assume ALL women are gold-diggers because ALL they think and care about is money!
6) They are Insensitive. They do not care about a woman's feelings but ironically demand that a woman care about theirs. And why is this? Because they are more important than a woman. They act like a woman is over-reacting and tell her to calm down, meanwhile when they have hurt or angry feelings, they EXPECT a woman to understand. They are quick to expect you to "get over it" and will tell you that you are being "too sensitive" but will demand that you come to their aid and understand their plight because they are a man and their life is more important than yours. They are insulting, rude and critical and then in the same breath tell you that you too sensitive, meanwhile they can't handle it when you dish the same thing back to them like a mirror reflecting their own behavior........"What's good for the goose, is good for the gander."
7) They are delusional. They are out of touch with reality. Their imaginations engage them in too much fantasy. They think they are God's gift to women and that ALL women are in love with them and want to worship their complete man-hood. Some even imagine a romantic relationship with a women even though there is not one. They want to hood wink women into believing that ALL women are in love with them, meanwhile not one woman has knocked on their door or called them. Even when a woman tries to tell them her feelings that are truth, he still won't believe it and has to spend his time convincing her that she does not yet know that she is in love with him. Some even think they have fabulous bodies with six-pack abs, meanwhile their beer gut belly extends out to their feet!
8) They are Hypocritical. They have no problem attacking a woman and calling out all her shortcomings and failings, but fail terribly in seeing their own grotesque flaws glaring at them in the mirror. But because they are myopic, they can not see their own flaws and where they need to improve. They love to make a women look bad and "witchy" passing judgment, while they themselves are innocent victims and "saints", never doing anything remotely bad.
9) They don't listen. When I worked in nursing homes, I would have to document objectively each patient at the end of my shift. On the flow sheet, if a patient was HARD OF HEARING, this would be documented as HOH. Most men in general need a super duper, highly sophisticated hearing aid because they really, really lack basic listening skills. You do not need a PHD in engineering, or MD in neurosurgery to know how to listen to people. Listening is not just with your mind and your intelligence, it is also with your heart resulting in understanding. Actively listening does take effort and time so perhaps their indolence is why they do not listen. To be a good business associate, a good lawyer, a good doctor, a good judge, a good deputy, etc., etc., you have to have the most basic life skill that does not require a degree. JUST BE A GOOD LISTENER.
10) They are way too Visual. It seems they think that women were put on this earth to be visually pleasing to them as if women only existed for their visual pleasure. This is RIDICULOUS! They put way too much emphasis on a women looking "perfect" meanwhile some of them look like slobs and smell like slobs because they haven't showered in 5 days. And you know what, they don't care but yet they expect a women to smell and look perfect all the time as if she gets dressed and showers and puts make-up on just for men. So preposterous.
So here you have it. These are my sentiments exactly because I have witnessed it way too many times and frankly it is so disturbing at times that I want to vomit. But again, this is not intended to classify all men this way. I have met some men, although so rare like finding a piece of gold in the Alaskan tundra, who don't exhibit these traits and yes, it is refreshing like a pure mist of water on a really hot day. I know no one is perfect but some men are so obnoxious that you can't be in the same room with them.